THE UNTOLD TRUTH ABOUT SEX

THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX When you have no one you love or care for, you easily convince yourself sex doesn’t really matter. It’s no big deal, you say to anyone who raises an eyebrow, or asks. I am strong you persuade yourself on those nights you go out with friends to catch that romantic comedy with those beautiful love scenes. Hmmmmm. I tell you it is not easy. Abstinence is not what nature planned for a healthy human body. (Nature hates vacuum you remember) You hit puberty and the hormones get raging in your system. You read mills and boon, thrills and boon and sex is this earth shattering experience. You read Joan Collins and Harold Robbins and the raunchy aspects are described in titillating details. The blood pools in certain parts of your body and you can’t wait to meet your own love and have your own share of sex experience with him. Why abstinence then? You are a teenager and your body is so ready, more than ready. But you are filled with romantic fantasies of there being just one person with whom it would be special. You also remember all the Sunday school lessons you attended and if you’re from some denominations, where the Catechist will make you vow before your confirmation. The years creep by and you become matured enough to realise that you are not emotionally ready no matter how much your body screams for it. You go back to your Bible roots and tap some strength from being born again. Abstinence. Sometimes you ask yourself, what does it really mean? If you make out with your transient male/female friends, does that count? Afterall you did get some pleasure and maybe an orgasm or two from them. You recreate these episodes in your mind those days during your cycle when you are so easily aroused. And if you’re like me you put yourself in the dock those nights you wake up horny from the erotic dreams stalking your sub consciousness. There is after all that guy that wanted to be your **** buddy. The years continue to pass and you still abstain. Some of your secondary school friends get married, get pregnant and you wonder at their new found confidence. Your university mates are sexually active and talk about all manner of stuff in your presence. Sometimes you own up to your inexperience and if the company is hostile, you brazen it out with knowledge gleaned from books. You cringe when they mention their numerous abortions, are disgusted when they crawl back to abusive BFs just for the sex and your decision is strengthened. But does that strengthen your body? I doubt so. A case of the spirit being willing and the flesh weak. You help yourself out sometimes and other times you go out with that guy that has been hanging around and allow him cop a feel. Most of the time though you stiffen your upper lip and go to sleep. Your guilty conscience makes you backslide. Furthermore, trying to get busy with church shows up the corrupt underbelly and you lose faith. The choirmaster and the solo singer are having sex so why do you bother? The pastor and his wife wear only Armani and Prada while Brother Puis and his family starve so why do you bother? You are almost an atheist but you know that’s not possible. You hold on to your decision but it’s no more for God. Some of your friends you shared the pact with had either fallen by the wayside or gotten married. You’re approaching your big 3-0 and your closest friend tells you it’s only fear holding her back. It is no more strength of will. It is no more saving it for that one special guy. The other says it’s just that after rejecting all the previous eligible suitors, why give it up to some of the yeye people coming around now. What to do? Your crown has become a millstone around your neck. Then that friend gives in to one of those not so eligible guys, and he marries her after a bit. She’s lucky isn’t she? He’s a bachelor anyway, unlike the majority married men that trail after you like flies to raw meat. There is one left and so you console yourself. Then out of the blues, she calls you. I have done it. Done what you ask? Had sex and girl it is so overrated, she blurts. You have heard that before but hearing it from her makes your heart plummet. Is that it? All that you’ve been looking forward to? But that’s not the end. Did I say it was not easy? If anyone tells you abstinence is easy, they’re fibbing big time. You are now dating a guy you love more than all the others. He loves you so much and also understands your stance, he is ready to wait. But your friend is on your neck. Ahhh it gets better. The more you have sex, the better it becomes. She is having the time of her life and she wants you to join the league. Bobo is making subtle moves and your body is feeling him. A lot What to do? It is not easy I tell you. However, at the end of the end, it’s a decision you have to make yourself. I sincerely beg to be understood and not to be misunderstood. As a realist I go along with this postulation because there are things to and not to pretend about. Most people who preach abstinence do worst things even in a wasteful manner. Even to married couple if marriage is a mystery then sex is a bigger mystery, in that, Both human beings and our system are unpredictable. Let's learn from Animals after all King Solomon referred us to Ants for wisdom. In which School do which Teacher, teach animals how to, where to and when to make babies. They simply respond to stimuli. They don't pretend about anything. Their male and female go all out in search of what they want according to their feeling at their heat period. It is far better to my mind that, rather than store nude pix in your busy memory from work place to your house while preaching abstinence, only to lock the door and start deceiving yourself. Better tell the him/her about your feeling may be he/she also feels the same way so you can make a clean end to this day light dream of yours. So Abstinence in secret is better than abstinence in public. But if abstinence is not your calling then make a choice for yourself and you will soon get tired of it or better still limit yourself with consecrations that are evident in your life because God see more in the secret as humans see more in the open and form (Sometimes wrong) opinion.

One More Chance !!!

Sometimes all it takes is another chance to get things right i'm sorry that i hurt you in a way that made you bleed. i'm sorry that i did what i did on an accident. i'm sorry that my fun got over to rough. i'm sorry we are no longer friends. i'm sorry you choose not to forgive or talk to me ever. i'm sorry the world crash what we had in future for us. i'm sorry like in a billion stars GOD made to brighten our love. You can close your eyes to the things you dont want to see, but you cant close your heart to the thing you dont want to feel. You never know what true love is until you've experienced heart ache, And found love again.i knw i ve hurt nd lied to so many times but i still love you .................................................?

Plz read this very carefully. ...Unconditional Love........A story is told abo...ut a soldier who was finally coming home after

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Franciso.

"Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring home with me"

"Sure," they replied, "we'd love to meet him." "There's something you should know the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mine and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."

"I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live."

"No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us." "Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live his own."

At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few a days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police.

Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide.

The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son.

They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know.

Their son had only one hand and one leg.

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The Homeless Poor Boy !!!

A poor boy who was begging from door to door to feed his hungry stomach, decided he would ask for a meal at d next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened d door. Instead of a meal, he asked 4 a glass of water, d woman thought he looked hungry, so she brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, & then asked how much do I owe u? U don't owe me anything, she rep...lied. Mother has taught us never to accept pay for kindness. He said, then I thank u from my heart………………………Years later, that young woman became critically ill, d local doctors were battling because they couldn't cure her, they finally sent her to d big city, where they called specialists 2 study her rare illness. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for d consultation, when he heard d name of d town where she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately, he rose & went down the hall of d hospital to her room. He recognized her at once. He went back to d consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day, he gave special attention to that case. After a long struggle, d battle was won! Dr. Kelly requested d business office to pass d final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on d bill. It was sent to her room, d woman feared opening it, for she was sure it might take d rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, & noticed something was written at d edge of d note, paid in full with a glass of milk. Tears filled her eyes as she immediately remembered. Every form of kindness u show doesn't bounce, it reproduces itself. Not necessarily before your eyes, but it always does. I've been kind to u by sharing this story with u. So, be kind to share it with others. It is good to be good